Comedian Explains Consent With A Light-Hearted Analogy So Everyone Can Understand

By Malaika
April 26, 2021
4 minutes read

Consent is not a hard concept to grasp.

It means that you can’t touch or do anything to a person without their expressed permission. It should be clear and if you are not sure, you can ask. And it does not count when a person is under the influence and you can clearly see the signs that they are not in their right mind. There is a reason people give away their power of attorney when they are too mentally ill to function and make decisions.

So why is it that hard to understand that people lose their inhibitions when they are under the influence of drugs? And wearing clothes that show a lot of skin is not an invitation for other people to come and ‘play’ with you as you please whether you are a man or a woman. Gender really doesn’t come into this. Consent goes both ways and we should stop blaming the victim.

This is why this Comedian came up with a hilarious analogy to explain consent. Why we still need analogies is beyond me but if it gets the job done then I am all for it.

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This is Alice Brine, A New Zealand comedian who took matters into her own hands when she got tired of all the victim blaming.

As she explains it, he should have known better.

After all, his no really meant yes right?

He should have been more clear and not flaunted his wealth so much.

At the time there was a cricket player in New Zealand who was in the spotlight for sexual assault. The media was blowing up with headlines like ‘She said no, but did she mean it?’ Even one publication went as far as to say “She told him she was on the pill, so how could it be r*pe?” I got so frustrated seeing all those headlines and wrote the status.

I find that the post starts trending again when there is a particular event happening that it relates to. Right nowI’mm getting tagged in a lot of retweets about a US senator that not too many people are happy with. It’s not a bunch of people shouting loudly at all, it’s embedded into the fragments that build our society.

See how dumb that sounds?

And yet we are perfectly fine saying these things to a victim.

Women can’t even get drunk in peace without the fear of getting roofied.

Even the law is not on their side.

There’s just this really powerful urge for people to want to think good things happen to good people and where the misperception comes in is that there’s this implied opposite: if something bad has happened to you, you must have done something bad to deserve that bad thing. We want to think that if we do the right thing, it’s all going to be OK. It’s threatening to see other people not be OK, so we want to come up with an explanation of why that experience won’t happen to us. -Sherry Hamby