{"id":20945,"date":"2021-05-02T10:57:15","date_gmt":"2021-05-02T10:57:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/unwomanly.com\/?p=20945"},"modified":"2021-05-02T10:57:15","modified_gmt":"2021-05-02T10:57:15","slug":"woman-tells-an-11-year-old-boy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/unwomanly.com\/woman-tells-an-11-year-old-boy\/","title":{"rendered":"Woman Tells An 11-Year-Old Boy To Stop ‘Acting Like A S*ssy’ When He Starts Crying, Gets Schooled"},"content":{"rendered":"

Crying does not mean you are weak.\u00a0<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Women have always been called hysterical for crying over things and men have always been told to ‘man up’ if they even let a single tear escape their eyes. We are human beings and having feelings like experiencing grief, happiness e.t.c is normal. So what if a person is bawling their eyes out at a movie? Isn’t it supposed to invoke an emotional response out of you? It just means the creators did a good job and doesn’t reflect anything about your emotional state.<\/p>\n

However, men are always put down when they show even a hint of emotion while expressing anger in violent ways is seen as manly. I have seen men punching walls, throwing things around when they get angry instead of addressing them in a healthy way. Most of the time, it is because they have been conditioned to react that way and don’t know a better way.<\/p>\n

The following story just goes to show how young a person can be when this sort of brainwashing starts and how it can negatively affect their future. Rather than helping them, these men become emotionally stunted in the long run.<\/p>\n

Source: Facebook<\/a><\/p>\n

Lyra Balearica is the one who witnessed this firsthand at a hands of a woman.<\/h2>\n

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She touted it as a joke but it can have a huge impact on a child.<\/h2>\n

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And they will become scared to ever cry again so they don’t get made fun of.<\/h2>\n

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Crying doesn’t make you any less of a ‘man’.<\/h2>\n

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Do we really want men to turn out this way? Because I thought that is what feminism is working against.<\/h2>\n

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I\u2019m a phlebotomist, almost all I do all day is drawing blood. I don\u2019t know if the woman was his mother, aunt, sister, etc for sure as I don\u2019t like to assume stuff like that without knowing for sure. But during the blood draw the kid did a really good job of holding it together. I hope my words helped him. He seemed to light up a bit after but was still visibly nervous even after it was all done.<\/p>\n

I definitely see feminism as a force that wants to allow men to be who they are and to form emotional bonds without stigmas. And yes, I think this has really negative consequences for all genders. It\u2019s absolutely important to understand that boys and men are victims of s**ual a**ault. And it\u2019s crucial to understand that most perpetrators, are men themselves. It all leads to a pretty bad place. -Lyra Balearica<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

This is true toxic masculinity and we need to work against it.<\/h2>\n

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It is an emotional thing and crying over it should not be seen as abnormal.<\/h2>\n

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Little kids are brainwashed to be whatever their parent’s ideal version is.<\/h2>\n

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And thus this leads to men who do not know how to deal with emotional situations.<\/h2>\n

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Throwing a tantrum isn’t okay but suppressing your feelings isn’t better either.<\/h2>\n

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Many people shared their own experiences and it is truly heartbreaking to read.<\/h2>\n

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Even when these men try to change, it is quite hard since they have been taught to be this way.<\/h2>\n

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We can’t put all the blame on fathers either, as seen above, women do this as well.<\/h2>\n

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Hopefully, with times we get to see a change in society when it comes to toxic masculinity but we still have a long way to go.