AITAH For not stopping what I was doing?

He started a 20-minute yoga video while his girlfriend napped. She woke up, asked him to stop, and got furious when he wanted to finish first.

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AITAH For not stopping what I was doing?

Sometimes the biggest relationship fights start with the smallest moments. One man came home stiff from a long day of class and quietly rolled out a yoga routine in the living room while his girlfriend napped on the couch. Ten minutes later she woke up, asked him to stop, and the evening went sideways.

AITAH For not stopping what I was doing? - I (36M) live with my girlfriend (35F). Last night I come home from a class to find her sleeping on the couch in the living room. I was feeling pretty stiff from sitting in a chair all day so I decided to do some yoga. Our house is pretty small so the only practical place to do it is in the living room. I put on a video on the tv (muted) to follow along. As I'm about 10 minutes in to a 20 minute video, she wakes up and is startled at first to see me doing yoga poses in the living room. She asks how long I've been home and i respond, but I'm still doing yoga as I'm responding.

Up to this point, it was an ordinary evening: a muted video, a sleepy girlfriend and a few stretches. Then she asked him for something he wasn’t ready to give right away, and her reaction caught him completely off guard.

She asks if I can stop (no reason provided) and i tell her I want to finish this video first. She goes silent for about 20 seconds then, if im recalling correctly, punches the couch cushion and says something along the lines of "I guess I won't be talking to you today." I ask her what's the matter and she tells me what I did was rude. What I could gather (she seemed pretty angry) was that she thought it was rude I didn't pause the video to talk to her and that she had a busy stressful day and was looking forward to talking with me. She seems to expect that i pick up on this without her asking for my attention because it is the considerate thing to do. My take
is that I want to be able to engage in an activity that requires my attention and not have to stop as soon as someone pops into my space. Am i viewing this wrong? AITAH?

Should He Have Hit Pause?

On the surface, this is a fight about ten minutes of yoga. Underneath, it’s about expectations: she wanted him to sense that she needed him, while he wanted to finish what he had started. Reddit mostly sided with him, saying a shared living room is shared and that asking to finish a video halfway through is reasonable, though some felt he missed her cues. Would you have paused the video? Let us know in the comments.

Source: This story was originally shared by u/SignificantWalrus151 on r/AITAH.

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