Woman Explains What Friendship Really Means And Debunks The ‘Friendzone’

• By Malaika
• April 13, 2021
• 4 minutes read

The friend zone doesn’t exist.

We have all seen several posts and articles detailing what the friend zone is and many people have made empires by telling other insecure guys how to get out of the ‘dreaded friendzone’. Well, the thing is it doesn’t exist in the first place. Either you are a true friend to someone and that means being there for them when they need you and supporting them.

Or you are someone who is being kind and friendly to someone just because you think they in return will owe you something in the future. Even if you like that person and hence try your best to get them to look your way, that doesn’t mean they owe you anything. And just because you have ‘spent hours calming them down when their partner is being a jerk’ or ‘been there for them’ doesn’t mean they were ever using you.

All of the things I just mentioned are what friends do just because they care for someone and want the same in return, nothing more.

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This is where it all started when an ignorant person decided to tweet this.

This is when all hell broke loose and this person decided to educate the masses.

And rather than simply hating on men, they actually make a lot of good points throughout.

Moreover, they talk about how men are brought up with the mindset that showing emotions is bad.

And that mindset of toxic masculinity can hurt them in their future relationships.

Interestingly, the men who I’ve opened up to are better at putting things into context, giving brutally honest advice, and giving me ideas for solutions. Women friends seem to be more adept at handling the here-and-now of emotions and how to get past them. Both complement each other. I find that if it’s something I can change, guys’ advice helps. If it isn’t, women are better at helping me frame my mind to deal with it. -chillchillpill

While our actions are always our own and we can’t blame someone else.

Society plays a big role in how we are shaped as human beings.

And it can damn near impossible to break out of that sometimes.

This is probably why most women and men have such different perspectives on friendship.

Asking for support from a friend is not a sign of weakness.

And shouldn’t be heralded as one no matter the gender.

Humans are social creatures by default.

And many of us need friends to prosper.

And bottling everything can actually have severe consequences at a later date.

I was expecting this article to be sexist and only correct for a small percentage of men/women. But I think there may be something to this. Certainly, that’s the societal expectation and it makes a lot of sense to explain why a guy like Chef Nol might think/say something that seems so insane to me. It’s worth thinking about, at least. -Parmeisan

However, it is never too late to change.

And this can only happen if we as a society decide to do so.

What are your thoughts on the thread? Do you think the person explained it well? or do have some other points that you want to talk about? If so why not let us know in the comments below?