A wedding is already one of those life events that comes with endless planning, expectations, family opinions, and emotional pressure, but OP never expected her own wedding to become the setting for multiple religious ceremonies that she had explicitly said she did not want. While discussing the upcoming wedding with her immediate family, OP’s parents suddenly revealed that they were negotiating with the pastor about having her father ordained as a pastor during the wedding. OP immediately objected because she wanted the day to focus on her marriage rather than becoming a shared celebration for another major family milestone.
Her sister supported her, and OP repeatedly told her mother that she was uncomfortable with the idea. However, instead of accepting her answer, her mother continued bringing it up and eventually shifted the responsibility onto OP by telling her to be the one to say no to her father. Then, with only a month remaining before the wedding, OP discovered that the plan had expanded even further: her brother was also going to be ordained as a deacon during the wedding. What followed was a family confrontation involving guilt, accusations, spiritual warnings, and ultimately a declaration from her father that the ceremony would happen regardless of what OP wanted.
I Thought Planning My Wedding With My Immediate Family Would Be Stressful Enough Without Anyone Trying To Turn My Big Day Into Something Else
Thankfully, My Sister Agreed With Me And Pointed Out That Dad’s Ordination Could Easily Take Place On A Completely Different Day
With Only One Month Left Until My Wedding, My Family Suddenly Announced That My Wedding Would Also Include The Ordination Of One Of My Brothers As A Deacon
Instead Of Respecting My Decision, My Family Started Telling Me That I Was Possessed And Warning Me About Spiritual Attacks Because I Refused To Agree
One Of My Brothers Then Joined The Argument And Said He Was Disappointed In Us For Treating Our Own Family Like Strangers
Let’s hear the community’s take on this wild story.
By this point, OP appears less frustrated by the ceremonies themselves than by the fact that her repeated wishes seem to carry no weight with the people planning them. She did not simply reject the idea and refuse to compromise. She repeatedly explained that she wanted her wedding to remain focused on the marriage and even offered alternatives, including having the ordination before the wedding began or on the previous day. Despite those compromises, her family insisted that the ordination should take place during the wedding, specifically while OP was changing.
When she and her sisters continued to object, the disagreement escalated into deeply personal accusations about being possessed, experiencing spiritual attacks, and listening to harmful voices. Her brother interpreted their resistance as treating family members like strangers, while her father went even further by declaring that the ordination would happen whether OP approved or not. That statement leaves OP facing an especially difficult situation: she is being asked for her opinion while simultaneously being told that her answer will not change the outcome. With her wedding only a month away, she is understandably exhausted and wondering whether insisting on this boundary makes her unreasonable or whether her family should simply respect that it is her wedding day.
