What started as a simple plan for dinner turned into a frustrating late-night disagreement between OP and her husband after a long and exhausting day. OP had spent more than twelve hours at home caring for their children, preparing their dinner, feeding them, and putting them to bed. Earlier in the afternoon, she had planned a meal for herself and her husband and asked him to stop at the store on his way home to pick up a few ingredients.
He agreed, so OP reasonably expected to have everything ready once he returned from work. Her husband was originally expected home around 8:00 PM, but when he had not arrived by 8:30, OP called to find out where he was. Instead of being on his way home, he was still at work, laughing with coworkers and eating a donut. OP explained that she was exhausted and hungry and had been waiting for him so she could make dinner. He told her he would be home later, but when he finally arrived at 9:30, he had forgotten the ingredients entirely.
My Husband Had Picked Up Extra Work And Was Supposed To Be Home Around Eight, So I Planned Our Dinner Around His Promise To Bring Home A Few Ingredients
By Eight-Thirty I Was Exhausted And Hungry, So I Called My Husband To Find Out Where He Was And Why He Had Not Arrived Yet
By The Time My Husband Finally Walked Through The Door At Nine-Thirty, I Had Already Spent Hours Waiting, Getting More Exhausted, And Wondering When I Would Finally Get To Eat
The Situation Is Even More Complicated Because We Currently Live In Mexico After His Deportation, And I Am Still Not Fluent Enough In Spanish To Comfortably Navigate The Grocery Store Alone
Even If I Had Wanted To Ignore Everything Else And Go To The Store Myself, I Did Not Have The Pesos To Pay For The Groceries Because My Husband Controls The Money
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By the time OP’s husband finally arrived home, the circumstances had changed completely. OP had already spent the entire day caring for the children, had waited hours for the ingredients her husband had agreed to bring, and was now exhausted, hungry, and ready to go to bed. Because they live in Mexico and OP is not yet fluent in Spanish, she says she was not comfortable simply going to the grocery store herself, and she also did not have the pesos necessary to purchase them because her husband controls the money.
She had made sure the children were fed with the food they already had, but the ingredients for the adults’ planned dinner depended entirely on her husband keeping his promise. What frustrated her most was not simply that he arrived late, but that he apparently spent part of that extra time socializing with coworkers and eating while she was waiting at home. When he returned without the groceries and became upset that she was no longer willing to cook at 9:30 PM, OP decided that dinner could wait until another day. Now the disagreement comes down to whether she should have pushed through her exhaustion and found another solution or whether her husband’s failure to bring the promised ingredients made the late-night dinner entirely unreasonable to expect.
